|  npftm | May 2, 2:01pm | I haven't prayed - I didn't when I lost my grandfather and uncle either. I have to admit to one thing however; when my uncle died his last words were that he could 'see [his] grandfather and grandmother waiting'. When my grandfather died his last words were that he could 'see God waiting'. Neither believed in God or an afterlife.
This proved to be a test of my non-belief. For a short while I questioned my lack of belief and wondered if I was wrong all along. After a small amount of research however, and some careful thought, I decided that this was down to endorphins or other natural chemicals. Whatever the cause, it was clear that there was a sudden onset of absolute peace.
Cancer is incredibly cruel, and I feel for you. As others have said, as long as we are remembered we live on. You are one-half your mother, and no-one or nothing can take that away, ever.
I hope I haven't sounded patronising, or morbid, as this is not my intention. I cannot pretend I know how you feel, as my circumstances were different, but I do know what helped me. I won't pray because I don't. That won't help. All I can do is hope that what I have said helps... even if just a little. |
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Sponsor |  Karolinger | May 2, 2:17pm | | I pray for relief, not as it would help or do anything. |
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| | | cork | May 2, 9:15pm | | Meditation works well to relieve stress, if that equates to praying for you then do not get hung up on being rational and go with what works best. Good luck. |
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|  olegnep | May 3, 7:51am | i feel pensive , i was only saying that i would be very angry if someone insinuated that thier imaginary friend killed my mother for some unknown reason (gods plan).
npftm - i know exactly what you mean , but my mother is ready to die and becazuse of her positive attitude along with yhelp from my father and sister i think our family will be ok. sure we will be sad but such is life. |
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| | | italian-scallion | May 3, 7:59am | | How does your mother feel about religion and an afterlife? |
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| | InadvertentlyMe | May 3, 8:31am | I'm sorry to hear of the loss. I'm with others in that I wouldn't try to force myself into pure rationality, but if it happens, I wouldn't complain.
I think, most of all, the challenge becomes making the most of what time is left. Death has to be a lonely thing - or it could be. |
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| | olegnep | May 3, 8:39am | | she is Russian orthodox but she almost never discusses her beliefs with us , my parents let us (my sister and i ) form our own beliefs (consequently we both ended up as atheists) |
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